Does your toddler throw tantrums in the worst part of the day? Are you coping with toddler tantrums? Don’t worry you are not alone every child will have a tantrum at some point but their way to deal with them and it not getting stress shouting and pulling your hair out. That won’t stop the tantrums and you may go bald.
How to deal with toddler tantrums before they start
You will want to handle a toddler tantrum in a way that keeps them safe and not hurting you. So a good place to start is to toddler proof your home. By putting the thing that they can throw out-of-the-way it will stop them from throwing it and stop you from having to tell them off which will make the tantrum worst which feeds a never-ending cycle that could go on for ages.
Having clear routines for your toddler is another way to stop a toddler tantrum before it begins. Having clear times when you have your lunch, your naps, bath times and bed times will reduce the screaming because they will know what time it is and will expect to do that particular routine.
Have lots of opportunities to let off steam. Every second of every day your toddler will seem to have energy. It like it builds up and they need to let it off some where so whether they are running around outside or at the park its a good idea to let it off in a controlled way otherwise it could be that they run all over your sofa.
Let them have the power of choice. Letting them choose what they wear or play with seem like a tiny thing but it means a big deal to a little toddler. It might seem ridiculous, it might look laughable but if it avoids a tantrum then let them choose.
When a tantrum starts to erupt use a distraction like anew game a song or activity. Just about anything will do as it take their mind away from what they were going to explode at. These won’t work all the time but they are good when they do work.
How to handle toddler tantrums when they do start
You now have everything in place to stop most tantrums before they start but if you do get some it is best to know some strategies for dealing with them.
If they are minor tantrums you could try ignoring it by carrying on with what you are doing or walk off into another room. Keep you stress levels down by using some tried and tested methods like deep breathing, relaxing your muscles and positivity. If you are out and about where there are crowds you might want to pick them up and move to an area where there are fewer people staring it will reduce their behaviour and relive some of your embarrassment.
For major tantrums you will need to try a different approach. If they are really going for it and they may hurt them selves you’ll have to hold them tightly while trying to keep eye contact. Then say calmly things like I’m here, I’m not going anywhere, you aren’t going to hurt yourself.
IF your child is over 3 years old you could have somewhere they can be put for a time out. This works really well and involves you putting you child on a chair, or bottom step somewhere which has no interest thing around. Have them sit there for a few minutes till they calm down. You may need to keep putting them back on there at first but they will get the idea after a little while.
As your child grows and develops they will leave the tantrum stage behind them but learning how to handle toddler tantrums is important as it will lay the foundations for discipline as they grow or if you don’t handle them well the tantrum stage could get worse and last for longer.
So Has your child embarrass you in a public place?
They always seem to do it when there is most people around and you find yourself saying to other people they are normally really good. Have you found yourself saying that if so I would love to hear your stories. Leave a comment below to let me know!